Simplicity Parenting is an interesting style of parenting and timely for today’s fast-paced environment. Here we give you the skinny on what Simplicity Parenting is all about and some insightful tips on how to apply it. Parenting is a tough business but this parenting style might give you a fresh perspective on it. Read on and you might find the perfect tool to help you raise well-rounded kids!
Simplicity Parenting | What It Means And How To Start
What Is Simplicity Parenting?
Today’s complex world can be overwhelming for anyone. The world feels like it’s spinning out of control and it’s proving to be too much. Sadly, our children also bear the brunt of this digital, physical, and mental onslaught. And while we can’t change the way the world works, we can affect the way our children live in it. Simplicity Parenting offers a practical solution for parents out there.
Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne gives us insights into parenting in this present time. It encourages parents to simplify their lifestyle. “Parents need to relax,” according to Payne. Taking a breather from all the hustle and bustle of everyday life works wonders for both parents and children.
Simplicity Parenting covers four aspects to simplify. These are the environment, schedule, rhythm, and connection. You are encouraged to declutter your environment, loosen up your schedule, create rhythm, and unplug a few toxic connections. By paring down these areas, the family thrives in a calm and enlightening environment.
Simplicity Parenting Tips
1. Restore Room Function
School textbooks in the kitchen countertop and gym shoes in the living room–this is how the house can get messy. Many of us have the intended functions of each room in our house all mixed up. Simplicity Parenting encourages orderliness by decluttering. Use the dining room for eating in and not for reading the morning paper. Take your kid’s schoolbooks out from the kitchen. Finally, remove all screen gadgets from the bedroom. By sticking to how each room in the house should be used, we simplify our home environment.
2. Plan, Cook, And Eat Meals Together
Plan and cook meals together with your kids. It could be the ultimate solution for picky eaters in your brood. Plan your meals with everyone’s input. By discussing it with everyone, they can express what they want and you can tell them what they need, then you can meet in the middle. You can simplify this area by creating a rhythm. Create a meal plan they can grow accustomed to. Use simple recipes and healthy ingredients. Cooking meals with your children will let them see the effort put into preparing food. This, in return, will make them appreciate food even more.
The dining table is a great avenue for discussing things in a relaxed environment. Research shows the benefits of regular meals with all of the family together. Kids are more expressive, confident, and less likely to succumb to depression and substance abuse. This is also quality time shared with the family.
3. Set Quiet Times
Avoid nagging–it’s fruitless. You’ll only leave your child feeling harassed with your barrage of questions and demands. Your kids will respond to you better when you are calm and collected. Tone down your voice and create a soothing environment for your child. In return, they will respond by being just as calm.
Value sleep. Encourage it in your children by setting rules on bedtime. You’ll find sleep’s rejuvenating effect invaluable in getting through the hustle and bustle of a day.
4. Spare Your Children From The Adult World
Avoid sharing adult issues with your kids even if you mean well. These issues might be too much for them to handle or process. There is a time for them to be confronted with the harsh realities of life. For now, create a blanket of security in your home for your kids. “Too much information does not ‘prepare’ a child for a complicated world, it paralyzes them”, expressed Payne.
With that, Simplicity Parenting recommends you don’t allow your underage children access to social media. That’s why there is an age requirement for joining these sites. We’re all too aware how negative and overwhelming the online world can be. Spare your children from these brouhahas. Limit their connections to media and materialism and increase their emotional intelligence.
5. Value Family Time
There is so much to do and so little time–or so we think. It’s a shame our kids become the receiving end of the consequences of this perceived busy-ness. Instead of being the priority, the family gets whatever there is left of the time (if there is any). To create rhythm and simplify your schedule, set a day exclusively for the family. Sunday used to be that appointed day. Now, with everyone always tapping away at their phones it is becoming increasingly harder to get everyone together.
Of course, it’s unfeasible for some families to dedicate full days, so feel free to adjust. We have jobs and bills to pay–but parents shouldn’t lose sight of who they’re doing all of this for. Carve out some time with your kids and unplug by not checking your phone. Give them your full attention.
6. Reduce Screen Time
We’re all guilty of this: spending large amounts of our time in front of screens. If we are to cut screen time for our kids then it must also start with us. You’ll be surprised how much time you’ve been spending on social media–time better spent with our children.
There’s a reason why television is called the boob tube. There is no interaction with it which allows your child to only receive the information and not challenge it. Limit time for television and video games in your daily routine.
7. Avoid A Jam-Packed Schedule
Supermoms are champion multi-taskers but it doesn’t mean your children have to as well. We all want the best for our kids but music lessons, dance tutorials, and Little League all together could be too much. Let your kid pick one and let him or her focus on it. Maybe you can even cut yourself some slack as well. Perhaps by clearing your own schedule, you can also avoid overscheduling your child’s.
8. Try The Outdoors
This is not just about going on a camping trip, although, that would also be a great idea. Try spending more time outdoors with your family. Go to your backyard or the community park if you don’t have an outdoor space. Nature offers a powerful calming and healing effect. You don’t need to plan these trips too extensively or spend much. These moments don’t only encourage activity in your kids. They also create wonderful memories to last a lifetime. Make this a routine activity to create rhythm.
9. Avoid Helicopter Parenting
There’s no need to constantly hover over your child. Leave them alone but assure them they can approach you with anything. Whether it’s a tough math problem or an issue with a friend, let them know they can count on you. Doing so will develop self-reliance and self-confidence in your kids. Doing otherwise might leave them feeling smothered, pressured, and inadequate.
10. Make A Toy Inventory
You’d be surprised at how many toys your kids actually have. Toys they play with for only a few days. Cut the number of toys your kids have by half and declutter your home. Get rid of broken toys and the not-so-important ones. You can try also to donate them which is great for teaching generosity.
You might want to let your kids be bored once in a while. Boredom encourages creation. That way, they may even create their own toys such as origami and cardboard playthings. This is simplifying your kid’s toys and their playtime. Also, encourage more playtime outdoors.
Check this video from The Parenting Junkie for ideas on decluttering toys:
Simplicity Parenting is a fitting method to counter today’s new norms. Now we can add Simplicity Parenting to our growing list of parenting strategies to enlighten us along the path of parenthood. This parenting style could even pave the way back to the good old days and restore the values we want our children to grow up with.
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