Understanding how parenting affects child behavior could give you some fresh insights. Parenting’s effect on child behavior is not a question. But recognizing how profound it is can be difficult. These are, after all, lives given in our charge and the responsibility can be overwhelming. Find out how your parental influence can steer your child into a more positive behavior as you read on!
How Parenting Affects Child Behavior: What to Know
In this article:
- Fact: Parents Affect Child Behavior
- 7 Ways How Parenting Affect Child Behavior
- Different Parenting Styles Affects Child Behavior
- Parents Are Role Models
- Parenting And Personal Issues
- Parent’s Lack Of Self-Control
- Parent’s Expectations
- Parents Are Neglectful
- Parents Playing The Friend Card
Fact: Parents Affect Child Behavior
Observe your toddlers and even preschoolers at play. How they act around their toys or playmates will mirror how you interact with them from day-to-day. By intuition, we know child-rearing practices have a significant impact on child well-being. Now, scientific research backs this, highlighting a mom’s love to be good for a child’s brain. Children from nurturing parents had healthier and larger brains. Those of the ones neglected were smaller by up to 10 percent. These observations will help you find a fresh perspective on parenting.
7 Ways How Parenting Affects Child Behavior
Now you know parents behavior have a huge impact on your children’s own. Whether positive or negative is up to you. These are the ways how parenting affects child behavior. Also added are insights on how to handle certain parenting practices:
1. Different Parenting Styles Affects Child Behavior
As we go through parenthood, we adopt different parenting styles. It is borne from influence, study, culture, and personal experience. There is the authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting, permissive parenting, and uninvolved parenting style. Each has its pros and cons.
Authoritative parenting is both high in responsiveness and demand. Authoritative parents argue, the style helps them raise kids with high emotional maturity. In authoritarian parenting, demand is high but responsiveness is low. Authoritarian parents can have very high demands for their kids. They argue, “it’s for their kid’s own good.” Even neglectful or uninvolved parenting has its advantages. Neglecting parents argue it will help them raise independent children.
It’s important to learn a thing or two from these parenting styles. Make sure to weight in on the pros and cons of each of these parenting styles. Too lax and you’ll be raising spoiled kids. Too strict and you’ll promote negative emotions in kids. What we can do is pick some insights from the different styles which we can choose to apply.
2. Parents Are Role Models
A child usually looks up to their parents. This means the parent usually serves as the child’s first teacher. Children usually learn by copying those in their surroundings. A child will definitely pick up their parents’ behavior and everyday mannerism. It is how they learn.
Often, parents don’t realize their little one’s eyes are always on them. They even tend to imitate their parents. This is why there’s a need to be more cautious whenever there is a child present.
3. Parenting And Personal Issues
Some parenting styles are a pattern from the parent’s own upbringing. Others make a conscious effort to make a 360-degree turn. If they have authoritarian parents, they want to be more lenient with their kids.
Besides parental issues, they also have personal problems to deal with. Financial and emotional problems are some of them. Even their own upbringing can have an effect even to adulthood. This, in turn, can manifest in their child-rearing practices.
This is how parenting practices can have long-term effects. Both on the emotional and mental health of individuals. This is why we should learn from the mistakes of the past. That is to take the path to well-rounded parenting practices. Of course, it is easier said than done and trauma from childhood can last. If you have problems dealing with your personal and emotional issues, seek help. Let the bad parenting cycle stop with you and in you.
4. Parent’s Lack of Self-Control
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Self-control translates into parenting in many different ways. Whether in discipline, emotions, spending, diet, decision-making, and relationships. If a parent is wishy-washy in any of these areas, a child will think it’s okay to break rules. A child living in this environment often grows up with an aversion to obeying rules. This is what happens when they were never taught to live life within the limitations.
Some parents can pay their kid’s extreme close attention. Helicopter parenting where a parent almost always hovers their child. Studies claim this is likely to occur in one-child families. Everything about their child must be always monitored leaving the kid feeling inadequate. Parent’s lack of self-control over this area can also have unwelcome results.
5. Parent’s Expectations
Some parents can have high expectations for their kids. Our own upbringing, pressure from other parents, and social media influence triggers this. These parents spend large amounts to send their kids to the best and expensive schools. Sometimes to, let’s say, keep up. Well, this isn’t a bad thing. What makes it unpleasant is when parental pressure affects kids in a negative way.
Kids go with the parent’s wishes instead of what will make them satisfied (that is if you are lucky). Others turn to substance abuse and violence as their form of release. This pattern reflects in many child actors in Hollywood who turned to a life of substance abuse.
We all say, we only want what’s best for our children. Make sure your child knows it, understands it, and feel it. Discuss your desires with your child and ask him/her about theirs. Then you can come to terms with what could be best for them.
6. Parents Are Neglectful
In the same sense where too many rules are damaging, complete disregard is unhealthy as well. Yes keeping your distance from your kid may help develop self-reliance. But completely ignoring them will affect their behavior towards you and other people. Most often in undesirable ways.
In uninvolved parenting, parents prefer to leave their child with other people. They often choose to keep their child busy with TV or internet. In doing so, they don’t get to keep a close eye on the things their child sees and experiences. This creates distance within the parent-child relationship.
7. Parents Playing The Friend Card
Parents use the “friend” card with their child. This is a modern family structure idea which is quite popular. This is the basic principle of the indulgent parenting style. A permissive parenting style involves an “anything goes” kind of attitude. This occurs when a permissive parent prefers to be his/her child’s friend first and parent second.
At times, this doesn’t sound harmful. After all, it does seem to cultivate a relationship of trust, love, and warmth. But permissive parenting style may breed a sense of entitlement within the child. A child will expect little to no parental discipline. This kind of parent-child relations may cause relationship problems in the future. Imagine a working relationship where your child is a subordinate. This is an all too familiar behavior among millennials today.
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Parenting is an uphill climb but the roles of parents in child life is paramount for shaping a stable foundation. Recognizing how parenting affects child behavior can set the spark to ignite a positive change. You can’t control your environment, but you can find ways to affect their behavior in a positive way. The end goal is child’s well-being. Your tools: parental guidance and parenting practices promoting cohesive families.
Do you have any observations on how parenting affects child behavior? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below!
Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on December 7, 2017, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.