Parenting styles vary from family to family, and can constantly shift during day-to-day interaction within the family. Generally, there are four different parenting styles — authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved. These are based on clinical and developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind studies on parenting styles. And regardless of which of these parenting types you chose, the goal is to raise children who are self-sufficient, healthy, happy and bloom into successful adults.
The 4 Different Parenting Styles Explained
Authoritarian parenting is often inflexible, unbending, and strict. Parents who are solely authoritative try to control every aspect of a child’s life and do not allow a child to make any choices. Communication is always one way from parent to child. Most parents are considered less nurturing. They give rules without explanation.
A child with authoritarian parents is often insecure, have very low self-esteem, and have difficulty with social interaction. A child will have a tendency to misbehave when parents are away.
Relationships between parents and children centered around the healthy expression of authority are beneficial for children. Authoritative parents are often caring, reasonable, and with high yet clear expectations. Authoritative parents always put into consideration their child’s feelings before they set their rules.
With authoritative parenting, kids are aware of the rules, the reasons behind them, and the consequences if they fail to follow. This kind of parenting encourages a child to take responsibility as they grow.
Children with authoritative parents are happy and have higher self-esteem. They’re most likely to become self-reliant, independent, academically successful, socially accepted, and well-behaved.
Permissive parents have a very lenient and relaxed attitude towards raising their child. They often allow their kids to do whatever they want and provide limited direction or guidance. Parents in this style tend to be kind, loving, and warm. Expectations are minimal if there are any or none at all.
Permissive parenting allows freedom with very little boundaries. The environment outside of their home is different. Permissively raised children often get frustrated when the world does not allow them to have their way. They’ll have a tendency to grow up not following nor appreciating rules and authority. There are also reports that they easily get involved in trouble in school and community.
Parents that are uninvolved in their child’s life give them freedom without boundaries. Uninvolved parents only provide basic needs — like food and shelter and nothing else. Parents have little to no involvement in their child’s life. Some parents do this kind of parenting consciously, while others are not aware of how passive they are.
As you imagine, this kind of neglect can be very dangerous as it affects a child’s sense of self, security, and overall well-being. These children are unhappy. They tend to develop behavioral issues. They emotionally withdraw because of the absence of family support.
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Every child is unique and parenting is complicated. From the moment your child begins to see and conceive things, your child will mimic you and your behavior. It’s a struggle to remain consistent, but always remember, whatever parenting style you adopt has a huge impact on your child’s life. Their future depends on how you treat them today.
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